That you have to face this shit and deal with it. That you can’t just go to sleep and wake up realising it was a terrible dream. That not very long ago your biggest worry is now hilariously insignificant. That your life has just been pulled from under you. That all your plans have been upended. That you feel out of control and overwhelmed and scared. There are no words or platitudes that can touch the sides of what you’re feeling. Just know that it’s nothing you did or didn’t do. It’s wildly, ferociously and vividly unfair. But most of all, really very most of all, you are not alone and you can do this.